If You're Still Trying To Make Them Understand, Read This

There are so many good people in the world.

Will you spend your every waking moment thinking of the ones that aren’t?

Will your brain and your heart become completely overtaken with the few (in comparison) whose purpose seems to be to throw you off, make you feel off balance, just generally get under your skin?

I know these are the ones that you usually spend all your focused attention on. It’s your way of trying to reconcile the incongruencies that people like this portray.

The hard truth, though, is that you can’t reconcile the incongruencies.

People who do these types of things are not like you and I.

Instead, they thrive on making others feel off balance and leaving them questioning themselves.

These are the gaslighters.

Please stop trying to make sense of them.

Please stop trying to hold them accountable.

Please stop trying to evoke change in them.

It’s not going to happen.

This obsession you have with wanting them to change is the very thing that's tearing you apart inside. You deserve peace. You deserve to stand on both feet, balanced, and whole.

The only way you can do this is to stop focusing on them and begin to focus on your own life and goals.

Many of you might not even have any goals right now, because you’re too absorbed in people who want to turn you upside down, inside out, and then wring you dry.

If your current goal is to try to please someone else, or to try to figure someone else out, or to try to get revenge on somebody, then you have no personal goals.

Instead, you are allowing that other person to take your whole life from you.

Do you really want to go through life, giving all your energy and life force to someone who doesn’t care — except to use it for themselves?

But I’ve got some wonderfully good news for you.

At any moment in time, you can decide to take steps and make the changes that will make your life better.

It’s unlikely it will happen overnight, but if you begin to take small steps in that direction — instead of falling into the obsession-with-the-other-person trap — then your life has a chance.

You have a chance to live the way you’ve always wished.

No matter how long it takes, you will be so, so happy when you finally get there.

Don’t stop until it’s done.

~Janice M. Burke

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