Claiming Your Reward For Putting The Work In

Most people are afraid to be aggressive. The word has a negative connotation even when it’s not being used about a violent act. Not only do we think aggression is a male act, but we also see it as a person who basically means war. We are taught to be fearful of aggression. This is how bullies and unnecessarily angry people get their way, it is a tactic. We are taught to bow down,  get away from it and avoid it at all costs. This is especially true for many of us who have grown up with any type of negative aggression. Those of us who were a parent’s punching bag, either physically, emotionally, mentally or psychically are often likely to either cower down the most or use negative aggression the most. 

But without a healthy and positive aggression in what we want for ourselves and our loved ones, without that self-confidence, we will simply never get what we want. We will be doomed to leftovers, knowing that we deserve more. I’m not talking about deserving more just because we exist, I’m talking about deserving more when we go above and beyond, when our talent and hard work sparkles and shines. Because, if we don’t express healthy aggression at these times, understand how to remain in our integrity, and still learn how to negotiate, those who are hungrier than us will always get the lion’s portion. What do you want? Do you want someone’s scraps? Or do you want your king’s meal?

~Janice M. Burke

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