Healing Isn’t Just Digging Out The Rot… It’s Also Learning How To Let The Light In

There’s power in naming.

Without it, it’s impossible to fully heal.

Without it, it’s impossible to fully grow.

There’s an old story about a creature who offered impossible help… but at a cost.

He only lost his power when someone uncovered his real name —

a name so tangled it cracked like a curse when spoken aloud.

Naming is not just about naming the awful things.

It’s also about naming that which you want—the great and wonderful things.

But naming the negative usually comes first.

Learning different psychological terms and what personality type they belong to opens the door to the miraculous.

When you begin to understand that the horrible things that happened to you were done by a certain psychological personality type,

you can actually look up what else they do.

Then suddenly, right in front of your eyes, on the pages of the book, you will see your life.

And everything will fall into place.

It won’t be a happy place,

but it will give you a strange type of closure.

Even if you’re still carrying it.

It might not be a complete closure at the time,

but it’s now well on its way.

Because learning something as big as this—

it changes the way you move through life.

It changes the way you perceive and understand what happened to you.

From there, though angry,

you’ve got a fighting chance.

But this chance doesn’t come just through pain.

It must be paired with self-knowledge and joy.

When you take the time to discover what you like and what you want,

a secret doorway to your new life will be found.

For how can you live the life of your dreams if you don’t even know what they are?

So the question becomes:

If you had nothing to block your path—

if you had the money,

if you had the people to help you,

whatever it was you needed—

what would you want to do with the rest of your life?

What would your ideal partner be like?

What would they look like?

What would they be like?

All the things in your life you wish you had—

start describing them to yourself.

Write it down.

Think about it.

Don’t do it in one sitting.

Let it become a waking obsession until you get answers.

Begin describing all the things that give you joy—

all the things that would give you even more joy if you could do them now.

Because everything rides on these two things.

When you know yourself, nothing shakes you.

You know where the other person ends

and where you begin.

High-paying employers don’t want an employee who isn’t 100% sure they fit the bill.

A healthy partner doesn’t want to get together with someone who just floats through life

and takes whatever comes along their path.

A budding entrepreneur will give up soon after they begin

if they don’t know their ‘why’…their reason.

It’s said that the Greek temples had signs above the doorways that read:

“Know Thyself.”

This is the most powerful and sacred move that anyone could make.

Name those things in your life,

and you will be on the path to true healing.

—Janice M. Burke

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