How To Communicate Power

What would happen if we spoke to each other from the soul instead of from insecurity and need?

Too many of us have grown up dismissed,  ridiculed, neglected, tortured and/or beaten. Depending on our personalities and the roles we played within the family structure, our adult outlet is often cold, cruel and sarcastic mannerisms and communication.  This becomes “fun” in our minds. Too many know how to cut others down while getting an uncomfortable laugh in response. 

When we grow up in situations such as this, we are denied the right to express ourselves as we are, instead we are tortured for the simple fact of existing. Sometimes, the only way we know how to get any attention is by being shocking and mean spirited. This is what we were taught. Most of us do not stretch beyond what we were brought up with. Our perspective remains as it was when we were children even though we find ourselves in full grown adult bodies. Our physical bodies grow older and it seems to us as though our mental and emotional self is older as well. After all, our older body proved that to the world. Rarely do we stop to think about what we are doing from a different perspective. When we see an open target, we go all in, just like our parents or caretakers did to us. The more helpless and defenseless the target, the more we go for it. This is what we were taught. Our caretakers came after the innocent, defenseless children that we were. As an adult, we tell ourselves things like “only the strong survive” or we find some reason, it doesn’t matter if it’s true or not, to rip another to emotional and/or mental shreds thereby giving us a feeling of superiority. We convince those around us of the rightness of our deplorable words and actions and how the target deserves it. And so the cycle continues. 

What if, instead, we spoke to each other from our Soul? What if we took the time to look into who we really are and what we really wanted in life that had nothing to do with what outside voices have told us or implied? If we took the time to do this thing that was denied us in childhood and were able to communicate this to others, instead of communicating what we have learned, what would happen? Do you believe that you would be shut down the same way you were when you were a child? Surely, both would happen. There would be no shortage of those who would wound, but there would also be no shortage of those who would cheer us on…even if they were not in our immediate circle (which often, they would not be). The most important takeaway would be that we finally took the time to get to know ourselves at a deep level. This is THE ONLY WAY that we can be authentic and satisfied. Being “real to the root” requires us to know who we are beyond some superficial, tough, mean spirited words. True Power comes from knowing and accepting ourselves, not from harming and undermining others, not from fitting into a negative environment, not from laying low, not from projecting what we think would protect us from negativity. Next time you sense that easy target, choose to look into their eyes with Love and Understanding. See them at that deep level with the same Compassion and Grace that you would wish others to extend to you. Be Powerful. See and hear others at a deep level, remember your own flaws as you see theirs, and choose what your environment tells you is the more dangerous path, the path that won’t fit in, the weird path of Love and Compassion.

~Janice M. Burke

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