I Get By…

So you’re just getting by? Everything‘s steady enough, you have a car and apartment, friends, a relationship, you can buy most of the things that you want or need, it just is what it is. There’s no need to change this, you have everything you need . You should just be satisfied. You should be grateful. There are many people that are way worse off than you are.

OK, but let me ask you something, do you feel lit up when you think about your job? How about when you think about your relationship? Your friends? Are you filled with anger and resentment? Or maybe, you just really don’t feel much at all, each day runs into the next. It’s a so-so feeling every day, or at least most days, but you should be grateful. You should be content. You don’t think you can do better than this do you? I mean just take a look at your past record. You were in a far worse situation than this. This is numero Uno, Primo. You got it made now. You’re not gonna do anything to rock the boat. You remember what happened when you did that way back when; when you were just a kid. You remember the beating you got for making waves. Even though, all you did was try to help. You remember the menta andl emotional rage, intimidation and gaslighting you got from that. You remember the physical beat down you got from that. It doesn’t matter that you were just a kid. Kids need to learn after all. And learn you did. But the question is this, are you going to live a miserable, unhappy life till the day you die because you were taught how to not to rock the boat by some really messed up people? Is the universe going to have to whip your ass in order to get you going? It did for me. I’m grateful for it now because, the fact is that I would have continued on that way until the day I died. I would not have attempted to change myself or my physical world. I would not have worked to change myself inside of my relationships, I would not have created new works of art, I would not have begun to write a blog and  I would not have learned anything about business. I wouldn’t have met the people that I have. I wouldn’t have been able to expand and grow and do those things that I always knew I could, those things that I always dreamed of. I wouldn’t have opened my mind to directions I had been taught were not feasible. Do you really need to wait for the universe to kick your ass into gear? I pray not. Doing it yourself is so much better than being at the mercy of the universe’s 2 x 4. Just don’t wait anymore. The most amazing life is waiting for you. I don’t care how old you are. That has zero to do with it. You are here to share your gifts with the world. Stop being so selfish. The life of having given up that you have chosen is an unbelievably selfish act. And I know that most of you reading this will disagree. You will emphatically claim “no you’re wrong! I’m not selfish, I’m a giver, I give to everyone! That’s all I ever do is give!” Well, that is being selfish. When you only give to others and never to yourself, you never learn boundaries, you never grow, you never become better because you’re too busy giving to other people who just want to take from you, just because they can, this is a selfish act. Favors are one thing, constant favors for the same people over and over again with very little in return are quite another. Please pick your head up and see where you are. See that by giving so much to people who can get those types of favors and things from anyone, you are robbing yourself of the time that you need to share your gifts with the rest of the world, those gifts that can truly transform them.

~Janice M. Burke

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