The Pull Toward Growth

When we pull away from those who only take from us, the reaction will often be one of accusation that we no longer care for them or anyone. It might even come down to being accused of never having cared for them. Understand that this is just a means of putting us back into our place. Don’t fall for it. It’s difficult enough to make the decision to pull away when attempts at discussing the matter go nowhere. We can care so deeply for everyone that we want to help them all, whether it’s good for us or not. When we pull away from those types of exhausting and stagnant relationships, that’s Growth, that’s healthy boundaries, that’s not us becoming a cold and uncaring person. For most of us, it’s not possible for us to ever be that. In the aftermath, words will often be twisted by that person or someone they know, to make it sound like we are someone that we are not. Unfortunately, that’s the way it is. It’s essential for us to focus on our Growth and understand what is happening instead of falling into the lies that others have created for us. Don’t fall for the vision of being the character someone is trying to make you out to be. Always remember that the way others view us has everything to do with them, not us. Focus on your Growth, not on others attempts at control.

~Janice M. Burke

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