This Is All Wrong

Most people have traits associated with some type of “mental illness”. I realize this is not what anyone wants to hear. Most of us were brought up by generations upon generations who never looked at themselves, so the negative traits were never properly rooted out. These traits are embedded in their Family Systems and, if the family is extremely lucky, there may be only one or two traits. But rest assured, it’s very likely that most people have traits that are associated with some type of unresolved mental illness. It doesn’t, by any means, mean that they have that illness. It just means that some of the traits are there because they were never weeded out of the Family System. Do you know anyone right now who works to uncover the undesirable parts of themselves and then actually accepts it to be true and changes those things? They number in the few… This could include anything from traits of narcissism to depression, borderline to avoidant, bullying to violence, hoarding to body dysmorphic disorder, the list goes on. Did you know that gossip is a trait of narcissism? It is called “triangulation”. It’s just one example. Lying, cheating, blaming, denying that which one knows to be true, all of these are commonplace in our culture. All of these are traits of a narcissist. Even books and movies revolve around these topics. But of the millions of people who participate in these things, most are not actual narcissists. These singular traits have become more embedded generation to generation. They have also been added to other family lines that carry different negative family traits. The further we go along generation to generation, the more complex it becomes within us. What do you see when you look around yourself? What do you see when you turn on the controlled news? Because the additions of negative traits do not just come from our Family Systems, they come from our environment as well.

What do you think it will take? It’s not easy to weed these traits out and work through them and release them to bring in kinder, more compassionate and wiser traits. But if we don’t do it, how do we believe that the next generations to come will have those happy and fulfilled lives that we want for them? How do you think that we will find peace with each other and, most importantly, with ourselves?

~Janice M. Burke

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