You Got It All Wrong

It’s staggering how often us humans get mad at the person that we did wrong. We blame relentlessly, and when confronted with the Truth, we are angered beyond measure. When we are caught in our emotional defense, we not only do not know how to get out of it, but we don’t even realize we’re in it or that it’s a problem at all. We have so completely blamed the other person for the actions that we took, that we cannot understand how they can possibly be angry with us. It infuriates us.

Though it’s true that most of us have done this at some point in time and that some of us do this in the heat of an argument, the problem comes when we are unaware that this friction is being caused by something that we are doing, no one else. If we train ourselves to step back and objectively evaluate the situation, we will be better able to discover that our actions were actually the thing that caused the situation in the first place. Once realized, taking responsibility openly can shift the situation. 

~Janice M. Burke

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